Sometimes you lose someone. Two paths diverged in a wood. You took one and I took the other. You took the one I could not follow. I slumped to the floor when I heard the news. I remember the last time we talked. Late at night. Your place. I dropped off the keys. When you died a part of me died too. Not the best part, but a good part. When you died a hole opened in my heart. A part of me withdrew. You were the trickster, the funster, the outgoing one. And I lost a part of me that was tied to you.
Our core identity reflects first our driving purpose: to leave a legacy, to connect to others, to provide structure, or to explore the spiritual. Second, our dominant approach to life...heart, mind, or body...influences how we seek our purpose. Do we seek to leave a legacy? Grounded in the heart, the rebel/outlaw seeks to leave a legacy of liberation by breaking the rules and over throwing the system. Centered in mind, the magician creates a legacy through transformation and growth for themselves and others. Based in the body, the hero seeks a legacy of victory and winning or at least keeping fighting. Do we seek to make a connection with others? Grounded in the heart , the lover's connection is intimate, seeking to love and be loved. Centered in mind, the jester connects through play and fun and laughter. Based in the body, the everyperson belongs to the community and fitting in and belonging. Do we seek to provide structure? Grounded in the heart, the caregiver provides str
Father, forgive the Stoics for they do not know what they do. “We forget: In life, it doesn’t matter what happens to you or where you came from. It matters what you do with what happens and what you’ve been given.” (Ryan Holiday) When you are in a place of privilege and comfort, it is easy to preach the philosophy of "suck it up, buttercup." Take the story of Jackie Robinson. The first Black man to break the color barrier in major league baseball, Robinson is a true hero. Robinson was the target of aggressive racism. He was forced to play with people who were vocally racists and questioned his right to he there. Robinson proved his right by not fighting back. He never took a swing at those who deserved it or publicly gotten into arguments. He even allowed himself to have his picture taken with out and loud racists. By playing through the hostility, Robison opened the door for others. If he had responded to violence and bigotry with aggression, it would have played i