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I am sorry that I was not enough

When you found me and I found you, I was wrecked. I was lost, and I was lonely. Trying to heal. I think you were all of those things too. Two lost, damaged people who found each other at sea. There was room enough for two on the door that we clung to. You taught me more than anyone else in my life before or since. Technical things. Practical things. New places. New Experiences. I had fun, and I hope you did too. I think you did at the time. You and I made a great partnership. Our personalities supporting each other. The sum of us greater than each of us. We clung together and made it out of the darkness. At least I did, but I don't think you ever really did. Looking at you and how much you did for me, I could only see your strength and not the shadows that clung to your heart and mind. Looking at myself and how much you did for me, I could only see my weaknesses and how much I needed you.  I could not imagine the doubts inside of you, and I could not see your fears. I could not see

You Wrecked Me Because I Let You

I never intended to fall in love with you. For all of my life, loving someone who loved me back was mission one.  I kissed a lot of princesses looking for the one who would change me from a frog. I dated many people looking for the piece to complete me. In time, losing you put me on the path to understand that those were foolish hope of an easy way out. I was the one who kept me enchanted. I was the one who did not see I was complete. That process took years. And it hurt. And I missed you the entire time. That summer evening, I knew I was leaving town in a couple of months.  I put my search for the one on pause. I gave myself permission to just be me. One date. Ice cream. A movie. A kiss.  You were so beautiful inside and out. You were the first to undo the locks around my heart. I knew you were the one for me, and I could not imagine any other outcome. You, on the other hand, were inexperienced. You did not know what you wanted.  That Friday in September we were just over 100 miles ap

Identity Archetypes

Our core identity reflects first our driving purpose: to leave a legacy, to connect to others, to provide structure, or to explore the spiritual. Second, our dominant approach to life...heart, mind, or body...influences how we seek our purpose. Do we seek to leave a legacy? Grounded in the heart, the rebel/outlaw seeks to leave a legacy of liberation by breaking the rules and over throwing the system. Centered in mind, the magician creates a legacy through transformation and growth for themselves and others. Based in the body, the hero seeks a legacy of victory and winning or at least keeping fighting. Do we seek to make a connection with others? Grounded in the heart , the lover's connection is intimate, seeking to love and be loved. Centered in mind, the jester connects through play and fun and laughter. Based in the body, the everyperson belongs to the community and fitting in and belonging. Do we seek to provide structure? Grounded in the heart, the caregiver provides str


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